As promised in the last post, here is an important question which applies to so many situations but we’ll confine this discussion to the ongoing Stacey Burns case.
When is it time to move on, to stop looking in the rear view mirror of life at a tragic event which occurred over six years ago? I mentioned that most of the regular readers of this blog would know my answer, which I’ll reveal at the end of this post.
There is nothing new about being told to move on, get on with your life, you can’t change the past, etc. etc. after a life changing event. I’ve heard similar sentiments expressed many times during my work on the book about the mindless and senseless murder of Stacey Burns. Human nature implores us to look ahead, not backward. Clichés focused on this subject are too numerous to mention. In the final pages of The Week from Heaven and Hell, my book about the sudden death of our son, Gary, at age 29, a statement stands out that I believe applies in the Stacey Burns case.
“Time had not made anything easier. The loss of such a worthwhile person in a world that cries out for compassionate people remains a question that I hope and pray I’ll have answered some day.” Without a doubt, there are those who feel this way about the death of Stacey Burns.
I believe there are times to move on without sacrificing the love and precious memories which are indelible in our hearts. There are also times when moving on is not an option. Those who loved Stacey Burns can still embrace her love and her memory but my hope would be that moving on would be impossible while the person who took her away walks free. Speaking of clichés, time does not heal all wounds. The loss of our son doesn’t get any easier; it just doesn’t hurt as much. The loss of Stacey Burns will never get any easier for those who knew her, but it might not hurt as much if her killer was in prison.In my opinion, it is not time to move on and will not be while this “open-unsolved” case drags on into seventh year. .