With the SEVENTH! anniversary of Stacey Burns’ death just weeks away, I thought I’d share a part of a piece I’m revising for entry into a Writer’s Digest Literary contest.
The essay deals with our own personal tragedy but I believe some human experiences contain universal feelings and the death of a young person is one of those experiences. I make it a point never to say to someone, “I know how you feel,” because I don’t and I can’t simply because everyone deals with grief and pain in his or her own way.
Calling “closure” a fallacy is true in so many ways. The definition of closure a finish, an end. With the death of our son, we did not want closure because we didn’t want a finish or an end to his memory. Here is the last paragraph of the piece I mentioned. I believe it applies to how people who knew Stacey feel about her death as well.
“Pain and grief do subside over time. However, the word closure does not describe what has happened since that weekend. We have not pulled a curtain across the past nor do we avoid looking in life’s rear view mirror at memories that are painful and memories that are joyous.
Love will trump closure every time”
Please, let’s not pull a curtain across the past. Keep Stacey’s memory alive by keeping up the pressure to put her murderer where he/she belongs.
Imagin you find your mother slaughtered all over her bedroom floor on mothersday morning. Then imagin nothing ever happens to the person responsible. What would be worse for you personally to have to live with the rest of your life? Knowing who did it and watching them get away with it or knowing who did it and letting them get away with it? The system allows for no one to be held accountable , Do you? I realize until your ever in this situation you can’t know what you would do, but, everyone, think about it, could you take revange? could you? it’s not going to be that easy.
I asked sgt, strong “who gets the case after you guys get done w/it?” I knew the answer, Strelzin, I just wanted him to say it. He didn’t, he instead asked me ” what?” So. again I asked him ” when an investigation is completed, who decides if it will go to trial?” Again he looked at me like I had two heads, but did, after thinking a minute answer, “were not there yet” (He must have forgotten about the grand jury thing.) These detectives are the best in the business at solving crimes but when it comes to lying, covering up and protecting their superiors, they become just like the cowards they protect, It’s not pretty watching real men turn into lying little cowards only to protect lying little cowards.
I only wanted to one time see you laughing , I only wanted to see you laughing in the purple rain…….. rip prince