Honoring a request from one of my readers, here are all seven of Dr. William Glasser’s Deadly Habits with corresponding Caring Habits. Remember, a major axiom of his Choice Theory is that the only person whose behavior we can control is our own. In a previous post, I chose to highlight those I thought might apply to the Stacey Burns murder case. Again, the primary source for this information is Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom By Dr. William Glasser.
Caring Habits Deadly Habits
1. Supporting 1. Criticizing
2. Encouraging 2. Blaming
3. Listening 3. Complaining
4. Accepting 4. Nagging
5. Trusting 5. Threatening
6. Respecting 6. Punishing
7. Negotiating Differences 7. Bribing, rewarding to control
Have a good day!
Duke
Glasser changed my whole approach to teaching and later counseling when I heard him speak in 1969 ( yes ’69) about Reality Therapy. It still holds true today. Ask someone what they want when they are complaining or having a pity party, and at first the response will be what they want someone else to do for them. But getting to What do YOU want? reveals the core issues or feelings.
Glasser is brilliant in his low key approach to therapy. I think that is part of his long term success
Have to get this one on Choice Therapy. Thanks, Duke.
Thanks Duke. I appreciate your response and will research it a bit more deeply.